You’re going to face challenging situations. You’re going to experience disappointment. It’s okay and it’s part of the process, especially when it comes to growth. I deal with this as a coach. I have lost games I wanted to win. I had players leave my team that I wanted to stay. Sadly, I have let go players that wanted to keep playing for me.
You’re human! You are going to feel emotions. Let me repeat that: YOU ARE GOING TO FEEL EMOTIONS. YOU CANNOT DENY IT. There’s nothing wrong with emotions. There are people (I have been there myself) who go to great lengths to avoid feeling certain emotions, especially when it comes to disappointment. But when you do that it’s like telling the emotion that it can have control over you instead of you having control over it.
This doesn’t mean you should show any emotion you’re feeling all the time when you feel it. It means that if you’re feeling a negative emotion you should take some time to process it. You don’t have to fight it, change it, or talk yourself out of it. Just feel it and accept it. Feeling your emotions is an essential step in coping with hard things like a breakup, getting fired, or having to move to a new city.
For me as a coach, we just had tryouts. Hard decisions were made, and I decided not to have certain players join my team. There were times when players left my team to play at another club. I had to take time to process those emotions. That time helped me reflect, learn, and grow. I want to encourage you to take time to process those hard emotions when disappointment comes your way.