Victoria Beckham Reflects on Her Past Style, Says Wearing ‘Very Tight’ Clothes Were ‘Sign of Insecurity’
Victoria Beckham said her personal style “has become more relaxed” over the years One student asked the 46-year-old designer about her personal style, which made Beckham reflect back on her fashion evolution. “When I was in the Spice Girls there were stylists who dressed the group, but in my personal life, I have never worked with a stylist.
You may know Victoria Beckham from being a fashion designer. Or maybe you’re old enough to remember her as Posh Spice from the Spice Girls. Or maybe you’ve just been jealous that she landed David Beckham!
Her vulnerability in a recent interview dropped me. She said, “I used to wear lots of structured dresses with corsetry, and I do still have some of those dresses, but my personal style has become more relaxed,” she explained. “Looking back, I guess it was a sign of insecurity that I would always wear clothes that were very tight, very fitted,” she said.
I grew up in a very conservative religious background. We put a lot of energy into talking about how women dressed. (Strangely, we didn’t talk too much about how men dressed…) We talked about how short skirts were, how tight jeans were, we talked about makeup and jewelry and so much more. We talked about the image a woman put forward and what it said about her.
But Victoria’s statement goes to something more important. I don’t know that many people talked about WHY someone wears whatever clothes they wear.
I’m a guy. I have no fashion sense whatsoever. I wear what my wife buys me. It’s a simple arrangement. But what I put on isn’t as much about clothes. It’s my persona. It’s my style. I work hard. When I’m insecure, I try to impress with my capabilities. I notice I start talking about myself more and what I’ve done. I’m just waiting for that admiration. That praise that I’m awesome!
When I talked about this topic around the office, a couple women (one just out of college and one who is a mom with a blended family of 6) both said the same thing, “When I’m insecure I wear baggy clothes!”
I think that’s the point. We all battle with the insecurity that we’re not enough, not liked enough. And we deal with it in different ways – tight clothes, baggy clothes, social media posts trolling for likes, working harder, or bragging how awesome we are.
To my church, working too hard was would get you praise and approval, wearing baggy clothes was “honorable,” but wearing tight clothes would get you judged.
Maybe its time to live life different. Maybe we need to get real about our insecurities and stop trying to hide them. Maybe we need to connect and be honest about how we feel we aren’t enough. Maybe we wouldn’t feel so alone.
And personally, I’m trying to accept deep love that says these things don’t matter. That my value is so much deeper than work and clothes and social media. I have value because God actually loves me…. He LIKES me…